Relationship question for all

Hello all, this is a little odd, but I thought I'd ask? ... I have sort of a personal spat going on... and wondered what the opinions from both men and womens perspectives were.

My boyfriend - he's 27 years old... has some annoying traits when it comes to going out with his male friends.
He believes in keeping close contacts with his "college buddies" and seeing them nearly every weekend at least one night, if not more than that during the week. We have been together three years but do not live together.

So the situation currently is, I am getting minor surgery on Friday (tomorrow) although not major, honestly from what people say, I don't think I am going to want to do much except sleep and lay around tomorrow evening even though the surgery is scheduled for 10:15am. I called off all weekend from work, and just want to relax and rest tomorrow. To be honest, i don't want to leave the house and just for a night, I don't want bothered with anything... I am not trying to be rude (is this rude...?) but I don't want anyone over - really, including him!
If we lived together, it would be a different story, but I take advantage of my occasional alone time since we don't! I dont know how to put it with him, but he claims "he wants to be there" for me tomorrow. I am only getting some dental surgery work done! I don't really need anyone to take care of me and I really think the true reason for this is so that he can see me tomorrow, and be able to go out on Saturday. Because of that, this REALLY annoys me. This is a weekend that I need some rest, won't be interested in doing anything the night of my surgery I am being told, and MAYBE will be okay saturday. The fact that he can't wait until saturday to spend some time together because he wants to go out with them, annoys me. I told him, go out with them friday and saturday and I'll see you sunday... I'll be fine resting... (hint...let me rest friday, dang it! Wink

) but that doesn't work either.

Why? Simply because he doesn't want me to complain come Sunday that he has spent the entire weekend with his "friends" - of whom one (or more, I dont know) of them cheat on their girlfriends/wives or talk of it- which is the ONLY reason I have a problem with it at all. Note: he is a very faithful person and is a wonderful partner in the relationship, I can only give him praises other than this issue here) One of these people is his own cousin, whom I think is disgusting. This man, his own fiance sits there as he tells stories of women he has 'caroused' with in the past. (just an example of the type of person he is) I truly don't appreciate him keeping this kind of company, but what can I do. A couple of them are in steady relationships with no issues like that, but they still, in my opinion should find better to do with their time!

So anyways, the thought of him spending the weekend with these people is less than exciting, and frankly, I just want rest friday.
I am getting to the point in my life where I'd like to be able to consider the next step in the relationship fairly quickly such as moving in, whatever comes... which some of my close friends have long been engaged and some are married. However I don't know what to make of this, thought I'd get some opinions, I guess particularly on this weekend. I have talked with him about the friends - many times - and he listens, but wants to keep contacts with friends and have some time for himself and them as well, which is understandable....many people I know have husbands who play cards or talk cars, watch a game, etc with friends.

Should I just go to nearby Toledo to visit family and stay with them to recup? That way he can have the weekend and I can rest in peace Huh?

Oh boy!

I know some of you must be rolling your eyes.... but at this point, so am I! Wondering what you all would do?